Aurélie Pankowiak (PhD) on LinkedIn: Dear men, I do not come from a place of hate towards you, but a place of… (2024)

Aurélie Pankowiak (PhD)

Researcher SafeSport participation/ Child abuse prevention in sport | Survivor-Advocate of CSA in community sport.

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Dear men,I do not come from a place of hate towards you, but a place of wanting to talk with and be heard by men that practice self-reflection and empathy and who are kind and non paternalistic. I have no energy to write a longer post on what is happening in dearest Australia at the moment. One because I'm on Holidays and two because as a survivor of child sexual abuse which was also gendered based, it is a real struggle.Between the very clearly gendered mass murder of six women and Brittany Higgins rape survivor story, and the ongoing murders and rape of women and girls in our society (not even talking about the ongoing systemic sexism that is part of our body and mind) women are exhausted. I beg you to please check in with yourself, with your best mates, brothers, sons, cousins, male colleagues, and ask them and reflect with them "what should we do about this, what can we do". I beg you to educate and apply yourself on what it means to be safe and inclusive of all women. There are so many free resources out there published by diverse feminist organisations, including, booklets, books, fact sheets etc. If you use Chatgpt please include in the prompt "take an intersectional feminist lens to that answer" because AI is sexist and 'ist' in many other ways. I beg you to please do the work, start today. You are actually a huge part of the solution.

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The double edged sword for me is as a by product of the views I hold, interests I have. Most of my friends and colleagues are female.But I will get up tomorrow and work towards a safer Australia and gender equality in the hope of seeing better outcomes in my lifetime and confident my son will do the same in the coming years.

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